The failures we experience in our lives don't necessarily define who we are or where we’re meant to be. Rather, failure is meant to teach us lessons we didn't know before - not to completely break us down.
It isn’t failure; it’s unfinished success. - Unknown
The fear of failure is one of the biggest roadblocks to success. To fear failure is worse than failure itself because it condemns you to a life of unrealized potential.
When you think about it, we continuously go through cycles of picking ourselves back up again after dealing with failure. We try to caution ourselves how to avoid ever feeling such a way again, only to realize that failure is just something we cannot control. What it really boils down to is learning how best to deal with adversity after we’re inevitably confronted with it.
What if I told you that failure can serve as a huge contributor to our growth? Or that we can't truly evolve into the greatest version of self without experiencing failure first?
We must constantly reinvent ourselves to create our best version yet. This requires getting comfortable with being uncomfortable. It’s easy to view someone else’s life as easier or better. However, who knows how much they’ve failed to get to that place. In fact, adversity hits us all (maybe in different ways), but there's no single person exempt from it.
So, what separates the people who let their failures derail them from those who use failure to fuel their ambition? Much of it boils down to what we do, and the rest comes down to how we think. It is the attitude that separates the successes from the failures.
When you fail, there are 3 attitudes you want to uphold.
Perspective: Perspective is the single-most important factor to beating failure. People who are skilled at bouncing back after failure are more likely to blame the failure on something that they did (i.e. the wrong course of action), rather than something that they are.
Optimism: Optimism is another trait of people who rebound from failure. It is a sense of optimism that keeps people from feeling like failure is a permanent condition. Instead, they can see each failure as a building block because of the learning experience it provides.
Persistence: Persistence is what you do with failure, as it is optimism in action. When somebody says, “Enough is enough” and decides to quit, persistent people brush those failures off and keep it moving. Persistent people are unique because they have a sense of optimism that never dies.
Whenever you feel that you’ve failed and feel down on yourself, ask yourself what’s more important—being a victim or an overcomer? Refocus your energies on getting your focus back to move forward from the situation.
The point of all of this is to invoke the mental power that we're not simply defined by our falls. Rather, we are defined by how we respond. Our tests aren't to break us, but incite us to become stronger than before.
Every challenge we successfully conquer serves to strengthen not only our will, but our confidence, and therefore our ability to confront future obstacles.
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